#375. Reversing the Golden Rule | Jamil Zaki
In this episode we’re talking about how what you believe— about yourself, or about the world — can become a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you believe the world is a cold and unforgiving place, it can become that way. And if you believe that you have limited capacities for kindness, you can, in effect, make it so.
Our guest is Jamil Zaki, who is making his second appearance here on the show. Jamil is a professor of psychology at Stanford University and the director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab. He is a leading expert on empathy and the author of the book The War for Kindness.
Jamil discusses three levels of kindness: kindness toward ourselves, kindness in our close relationships, and kindness in our communities. He argues that starting with the self is critical, but also that the kinder we can make our communities, the kinder we will be ourselves. And the more we reorient ourselves to focus on the positive, the more we can create a self-fulfilling prophecy of kindness.
We are bringing you this Ten Percent Happier podcast series in collaboration with the Apple TV+ Original Series Ted Lasso because kindness is a huge theme in the show, and there are many practical lessons embedded right in the plot.
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Where to find Jamil Zaki online:
Website: https://www.warforkindness.com/
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Other Resources Mentioned:
- Give and Take by Adam Grant
- Ten Percent Happier episode: #310: The Scientific Case for Self-Compassion | Chris Germer
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